Relationship Problems

Relationship - Spiritual Point of View

From a spiritual point of view, a Relationship is just another stepping stone towards a Healthier Existence, Consciousness, and ultimately, a fully Enlightened (aware) Healing Process through our interaction with others. We all have areas of our lives where we are in need of some type of healing (growth). This may include; Emotional, Mental, Physical, Psychological and/or Financial. All of these areas have a direct impact on the quality of our life to some degree, some more than others. This also greatly impacts our relationships.

We actually draw people into our lives who are at the same place energetically, and are also working on similar issues. We have a relationship in order to help ourselves heal these, and other areas of our lives. Many of us have painful areas of our lives which we are not completely aware of because we choose to not look at them consciously. We are afraid that it will hurt if we look. We then attract someone through a relationship who is willing to work on similar issues with us, and will literally push those emotional buttons for us. When those buttons get pushed, we are forced to look at the cause of our pain and frustrations. Then we are forced to do something about it. In other words, Heal the Issue (Please see our disclaimers on the "Disclaimers" page with regard to our usage of the term Heal).

We all too often then blame our partner for pushing those same buttons which we have enlisted them to push in the first place. Of course we usually do most of this "Unconsciously." Most of us don't go around thinking, "Hmm, which life lesson (Karma) should I work on next, and who will be willing to draw that pain out of me so I can examine it closer ?." When the issues (life lessons) which you have come together to heal through the union of your relationship have come to their fruition (and they are healed/learned), and you again feel neutral with respect to those issues, then it is time to move on, to be by yourself for a while and integrate, or move on to your next relationship.

If you get out of the current relationship before you have resolved your issues with your current partner, you will re-create the same issue(s), and continue to work on the same life lesson(s) in your next relationship with your next partner. This is why people keep on choosing similar personality types in consecutive relationships, and then wonder why it is, that they just can't seem to meet the right Man/Woman. Well, the truth is that they are always the right one for you at any given time in your life when you are with them. In other words, the reason you are not getting along (if that's the case), is because your partner is doing exactly what your soul brought him/her into this relationship with you, for - to "Push Your Buttons," in order to heal your unhealthy habits, and emotional fears etc., which you have cleverly buried deep within your sub-conscious mind, a place where you figured no one would ever look ... Suuurprise ! (and nooo, it Was spelled that way on purpose)

The only way to heal and grow is by uprooting the problem, and resolving it. Sometimes we need a little help with that process, so we employ others to assist us. When the two of you are finally at a point where you both feel more like brother and sister than rivals or romantic partners, that's the time to move on, or divorce - Not when you are still emotionally bound to the other partner (angry).

This scenario is particularly acute in the case of someone who is an "Unconscious Empath" in relationship. This relationship pattern will continue until you have healed all of your relationship Karmas. Then you will enter into a relationship by "Choice," as apposed to feeling a "Need" to be in one (no more baggage ... now that's a weight loss program, Jenny Craig, watch-out !).

As you can see, you are actually the "Center of Your Universe." So you can't take anything too personally. It is not happening to you - You are making it happen. You ... You ... You are in charge of the events in your own life, and the affects of your actions upon others.

People are not doing things to you, but rather, you have invited them to push your emotional buttons so that you can take a closer look at your own issues, and Heal them. If the people in your life are really getting on your last nerve - Hurray !!! You have done a great job in selecting them to help you through your process, AND ... they intern are really great at doing their part, just as your soul had intended ! If you can truly see the humor in all of this, then you are way ahead of the game (fibber).

It helps greatly if you remember that your own Soul chose all of the Karmas (life lessons), and Samskaras (tendencies/habits) for you to work through, and Heal. Your Soul actually chose everything, and everyone which you have incarnated with in this, and every prior lifetime - On Purpose. At this point you are probably thinking - hmm, maybe its time for a "Heart to Heart." The purpose may not always be obvious to you as an incarnate being however. We normally experience ourselves as the Ego/Personality Self instead of the God-Self. This is the reason why we are usually in so much fear throughout our lives. It is our God-Self which has our life's road map, so normally, we can't see where we are going, or even in which direction we are headed.

So actually, Relationships are really all about Healing. "Loving" is also a form of Healing, and therefore making love is also very Healing. Sometimes our Second Chakra gets stuffed up with Sexual Karma. Sometimes the prescription is to Have Sex ! Yes, believe it or not, having sex can actually clear out sexual Karmas from your Second Chakra (your sexual energy center). Wow, now you actually have just cause for your Husband or Wife to participate in your Healing Process - LOL ! "But honey, I was told to clean out my Chakras" . . . Honest !

One of the most affective ways people have increased their sexual energy for centuries is through Tantric Meditations, and Tantric Energy Work. You can read more about this phenomenon on our "Spiritual Tantric Energy Empowerments" page, especially the "Tibetan Buddhist Micro Cosmic, and Macro Cosmic Orbit Tantric Meditations for Sexual Energy and Enlightenment" (bet your out of breath).

On the other hand, Having multiple sexual partners is not only dangerous from a health perspective (AIDS, and other STD's), but also from a Karmic perspective as well. You actually Pick-Up Karmas from each of your sexual partners. If John or Jane seem a bit odd, or a bit cloudy minded perhaps, watch out, because you may be next. Sure he/she might have been a bit easy on the take, and yeah, it might have been fun, but do you really want to share in their Karmic joy as well ? Just something to think about.

How many times have you wondered the following ?

Why have you changed ? Why aren't you the same person I met ?

Spiritually speaking, men vibrate at lower, more Earthy levels and frequencies, and women vibrate at higher, more Ethereal frequencies (generally). The color of some Earthy frequencies would be dark blue, dark green and brown, and some Ethereal frequencies would be white, gold, yellow, pink and aqua.

When two people meet for the first time (we will use a man and a woman as an example), their energy patterns change significantly. When a man is vibrating at his normal frequency, he is comfortable in his own skin and feels alert and at peace. The same is true for a woman who is vibrating at her normal frequency, but when they meet for the first time, and there is some sexual tension between them, everything changes.

Out of our animal instincts, fear kicks in when we feel sexual energies awaken within us, and we are not sure whether those feelings will be reciprocated. We don't want the other person to realize that we are afraid, so we try and mask the symptoms by attempting to make the other person more comfortable around us.

The man will naturally raise his vibratory rate (and frequency) higher to try and achieve a similar level to the woman, this takes him out of his "Comfort Zone." The woman will actually lower her rate to try and achieve a commonality with him, and this also takes her out of her "Comfort Zone." Now "Jill" is no longer Jill. She is now behaving like "Relationship Jill," who tends to try and make it work, even at the expense of feeling as though she is losing her identity in the process, and the same goes for Jack.

We are subconsciously programmed to believe that a healthy communication can not exist unless we are on the same frequency. After the relationship is well under-way, the two become more relaxed in the knowing that they are now a couple, and therefore a level of safety is felt. The safer the two feel in the relationship, the more likely it is for them to revert back to their real comfort zones, and begin to re-establish their true energy levels once again.

As they begin to settle back into their knowingness and personal vibrations, the difference between what they were projecting, and who they really are, becomes more evident. This behavioral difference comes across as a "Lie." "You are not who I thought you were"! This is usually the couple's first real fight, and major turning point in their relationship, the "Honeymoon Phase" is over.

If the couple can survive the reality that they are now themselves, for the first time since they met, and that this new stage is merely the beginning of another, and possibly deeper level of honesty between them, then they are in good shape. It is usually at this point however, when the two split-up because each feels deceived by the other, and for some, the trust issues are just too great.

There are people out there who we will call the "Honeymooners" because they only stay in a relationship as long as the Honeymoon stage is still exciting, and then they move on. They are "Commitment-Phobic." They are adrenaline junkies, and only enjoy themselves as long as everything is moving at break-neck speeds. As soon as the relationship becomes deeper, they lose interest, and move on.

Part of the excitement of a new relationship during the Honeymoon Stage is that it is a sort of role playing. It can be exciting to vibrate at a new, and different level than you are used to, but it is much better to be yourself all of the time, and that way when you meet someone else, they can experience the real you.

The fact of the matter is that most people do not really know themselves. That is the source of their fear in the first place. They are not projecting another personality because they wish to deceive anyone, but rather because they themselves do not recognize their own truth yet. The Spiritual Path is an internal journey into self-truth. The highest consciousness is to "Know Thy-Self."

If you would like to try something simple and fun;

Imagine a color of energy flowing down from the top of your head through your body, and out of your hands and feet which is the opposite of what you might normally run. If you are male then run a higher frequency such as pink energy, and if you are female then run a lower frequency such as brown through your body. Let it flow through your body for a while and notice how you feel afterwards. Then run the color of energy which you would normally run. If you are not sure then just try a few different colors until you are comfortable with one. After you have found a color which is enjoyable for you, run it for a whole day and see how you feel at the end of the day.

People often ask: Will my Relationship last ?

Well, first of all, if you really have to ask that question, you are already in deep trouble. The answer is always the same from a spiritual point of view. If you were meant to be together, then even if you moved to a far away place, you will still somehow find each other. On the other hand, if you were not meant to be, then even if you are together in the same bathtub, nothing will happen.

Stop worrying about the things you Can Not Change

If everyone knew that the World was coming to and end tomorrow, there would still be a waiting line for people who want to find out if their boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife is cheating on them, today. Always be as loving, and honest as possible, and give your worries over to your God-Self.

When you are having problems,

the 2 Questions you should ask yourself are:

1) Why did I create this situation ? (sub-consciously)

2) What was I trying to learn from the situation I created ?

You are already half way there to solving any problem,

if you can answer both of the above questions.

What is a "Mid-Life Crisis" ?

There is another curious, and often mis-understood situation in relationships regarding "Phases" of our life. People sometimes go through what has been termed a "Mid-Life Crisis." We all go through a set of phases from Infant to "Chronologically Advanced" (Old Adulthood) within a lifetime - In respect to our development regarding our emotional maturity.

When we are born, we interact with the world around us through a level of Infant Understanding and Emotions. We then progress to Toddler Emotions, Teen Emotions, Young Adult Emotions, Adult Emotions, and finally to Old Adult Emotions (level of emotional maturity). However, if we are either not able to complete a particular phase at the time, due to family responsibilities or other hardships, or we "Skip" an emotional learning phase, then we have to go back and learn those lessons later in life when the opportunity arises. We can not skip a phase entirely and expect to be an emotionally healthy person.

A Mid-Life Crisis is nothing more than a person going back and - Not "Re-Living the Past," but actually living it for the first time. They missed out on those experiences the first time around, and they are compelled to go back and learn them at a later time in their life. Once this phase has been successfully finished, processed and integrated into their psyche, the person can once again resume where they left off, but at a much healthier emotional level.

Everything on the Spiritual Path (Inside - Spiritual) is 180° opposite from what you have been taught in the "Real World" (Outside - Material)

Everything you have been taught to be true all of your life from the time you could understand your parents, until now, has probably been based on a comparison between you and everyone else.

Example:

a) In the "Real World" (physical reality), you were taught things like; "You need to work hard to achieve your goals," "Keep your nose to the grind stone," "Nothing comes easy in life," "There is no such thing as a free lunch," "Life is hard, so get used to it," "Take it like a Man" (depending on your orientation). The one with the most toys at the end, wins. These, and many other sayings are born out of ignorance of what you truly are, your God-Self. These things are all duality based, and they stem from Ego Consciousness.

b) On the Spiritual Path you will learn some very simple, and seemingly very basic concepts by which to live your life; "Feel, and Allow Your Inner Knowingness to Guide You," "Let Go, and Let God," "Just Allow, and Surrender your Will to your God-Self's Will" (let thy will be mine), "Be Young at Heart" (pure hearted like a child), "It is far easier to thread a Camel through the Eye of a Needle, than it is for a Wealthy Man to become God Realized" (they would have to give-up all of their attachments, worldly consciousness, and completely purify their pride first).

As you can see, these two realities are in complete opposition to each other.

The hardest thing in the world to do is to completely let go of who you thought you were, and shift into another reality (even when it is more positive). Letting go of all of the learned fear based pre-conceived ideas, beliefs, perceptions, habits, and sets of rules which we have lived by, is the only way to become Free of the limiting illusory reality which we have been calling our Life.

The Ego is the only part of us that thinks. Your God-Self does not think because it has all of the answers. If you have all of the answers then you no longer have any questions, and therefore there is no need for thoughts. Your God-Self is always in "Present Time." Present time is so fleeting that there is no time for thoughts. When you experience living in "Present Time" - You are completely Fearless !

Stress and Depression are both Fear Based levels of Consciousness, and all Fear is Thought Based. In order for you to experience Fear you must have a thought about a possible future outcome of a specific situation. We do not experience Fear through thoughts of past experiences. Things in the past have already been experienced, so they do not create fear in the present. That would be a Phobia, which is a psychological issue, not merely an emotionally based response.

If you have No Thoughts - You Can Not Be In Fear ! How does all of this relate to relationship problems you might ask ? True Love is completely Unconditional. You can only experience unconditional love from/through your God-Self, and/or through one of the following ways; a) Between Mother and Child. b) From a fully God Realized Being/Saint. c) A Spiritual Awakening Experience which is "God Invoked."

Love between two people is generally Fear Based because we are always afraid that we are going to lose the object of our love - Our partner, or our dog/cat etc., the car, the house, our money etc. When you are experiencing unconditional love through your own God-Self, there are "No conditions." No conditions means you can not have any attachments because a condition is another form of an attachment, and all Attachments are a form of Fear Based Consciousness. You can only experience this type of true love while you are in a state of consciousness called Equanimity. You can read much more about this subject on the page named "Equanimity - Mankind's Ultimate Destiny ?."

The "Axiatonal Initiation" also brings you into this state of Awareness, Peace of Mind, and Tranquility known as Equanimity.

In order to maintain the state of consciousness called Equanimity you also need to be fully Grounded. You can read much more about this subject on the page named "The Need for Grounding."

There is a relationship between your Organs and your Emotions.

Bladder

Inner direction

Fear and inhibition, lethargic nature, restlessness, impatience, forgetfulness, and phobias.

Gall Bladder

Harmony

Low energy, cloudy decisions, inability to make decision, open rage or wrath, and anxiety.

Stomach

Contentment

Confused thought patterns, disorientation, worry, obsessive thinking, compulsion, and addiction.

Kidney

Gentle spirit

Low energy, fear, indecision, hesitancy, lack of will power, and poor confidence.

Spleen

Choice making

Slow thought process, poor concentration, indecision, feeling drained or burnt out, overly concerned of others opinion, and addictive tendencies.

Lung

Worth

Negative disposition, sadness, unnecessary grief, inflexible nature, lethargic tendencies, and resentments.

Large Intestine

Letting Go

Nostalgic memories, holding on to past hurts, inability to forgive, stubbornness, mental constipation, resentments, and guilt.

Small Intestine

Trust

Feeling of self-hatred, lack of confidence, hesitant nature, forgetfulness, slow recovery from shock, and patterns of anxiety.

Pericardium (it is the sac which contains the physical heart)

Bonding

Low self esteem, cruel, hard hearted behavior, jealousy, restlessness, self absorption, coldness, lack of concern for others, lack of enthusiasm, short term depression.

Heart

Unconditional Love

Anger, chest pains, selfishness, loneliness, hastiness, deep sorrow, arrogance, hysteric, extremely erratic behavior, and yearning for love.

Liver

Pain

Suppressed anger, depression, denial, frustration.

How do we create Spiritual Energy, and how does it affect our Sex Drive?

One of the more interesting side affects of the spiritual path is either a marked increase or many times a marked decrease of sexual desire and energy in both men and women alike. When a person becomes spiritual, their body chemistry changes to adapt to their new state of awareness. Semen and Ovum are the reason for these changes. It takes somewhere in the neighborhood of forty-five days to create semen and/or ovum in the body. Semen and Ovum are produced partly from the food we eat. It is then transformed by the body into an electro-chemical substance, and from there it is further refined into a spiritual light-energy (sexual urges naturally subside when this creative force is converted into spiritual energy. This spiritual power can be stored in the second chakra using the “Micro Cosmic and Macro Cosmic Orbit Meditation,” which I offer. It then becomes a usable vital force).

The light-energy then moves up the main meridian called the Shushumna Nadi until it reaches the crown chakra at the top of the head. It is utilized in the crown as a spiritual fuel to help awaken the individual's consciousness. As it rises up through the main meridian, it also acts as a cleaning agent. Some of it then turns back into an electro-chemical substance once more (but at a much more spiritually condensed maturation level than before) and begins to drip down into the back of the nasal cavity, and onto the back of the tongue. Once it is ingested through the throat, this super concentrated healing solution will revitalize the physical body.

It is said that it can make a person younger and healthier. It is also said that it has properties of enlightenment and even immortality. This substance is sometimes called ambrosia or the “Nectar of Immortality”. It is lightly sweet, flowery, and sometimes said to taste like apricot nectar. This nectar is called “Amrita”. It is a Sanskrit word that literally means "Without Death," and it is often referred to in texts as the “Nectar of the Gods”.

Amrita is a fluid that can flow from the pineal gland down the throat in deep states of meditation. Modern Neurochemistry revealed that the pineal gland produces Dimethyltryptamine, a psychdelic tryptamine, which is probably responsible for our REM dream states. It is considered quite a boon: Some yogic texts say that one drop is enough to conquer death and achieve immortality.

The body produces different nectars and each has its own health and spiritual properties, and benefits. They are also believed to have other divine powers.

We recommend the following Spiritual Empowerments

for

Healing Your Relationships:

1) "Axiatonal Initiation" (it permanently anchors your God-Self into your physical body and brings you into Equanimity, kicks out all other energies from your space, places you squarely on your spiritual path in earnest, includes Grounding Activation)

2) "Meridian Flush Activation" (your entire Meridian System will be enhanced by 10 fold, you will enter a light meditative state of Equanimity instantly which you can then re-activate on your own later)

3) "Kriya Babaji Nagaraj and the 18 Siddhas Lineage Kundalini Shaktipat Initiation" (this Amazing Kundalini Shaktipat Initiation will not only activate your Kundalini, but it will literally bring your Kundalini from your Base Chakra all of the way up to your Crown Chakra within one single 20 minute session by Lord Kriya Babaji himself - in the subtle form)

4) "Meditate While You Sleep" (includes multiple Chakra Activations, 3 types of Healing modalities, an effortless and Activate-able Meditation, and a Grounding Activation)

Here is a Description and Clarification for

“Breaking Spiritual Contracts”

You will feel the results immediately !

These very special activations are some of the most powerful, and efficient means by which to release Old Learning Experiences which you have already completed.

Often times People still carry around their “Old Tapes” (finished Past Karmas - Life Lessons) which still run their lives. These old tapes can be “Old Behavioral Patterns”, “Old Tendencies” (Samskaras), “Old Parental Influences” etc. All of these limitations can be easily released and removed with the “Breaking Spiritual Contracts” Activations.

Whether you are in a Healthy Relationship and wish to deepen your mutual experience, or someone is really on your last nerve, the “Breaking Spiritual Contracts” Activations actually release the tension in the relationship. It dissolves and removes the Emotional Attachment to Karmas which have already been finished, and are ready to be released by your Soul. This does not mean you will love a person less, it actually means you will be able to love them from a more Healthy place.

Many people are also co-dependant with their family members, partners, co-workers or friends. These Activations allow you the space you need in order to see the situation clearly. They will bring you into Present Time with respect to the situation in question. They are very safe, pleasant, fast acting and easy to use.

5) "Breaking Spiritual Contracts" with:

(please see the description above for clarification)

Others (usually your partner, but you can add-in anyone you wish)

Family

Ancestors

7 non-Vedic Astrology Planets

9 Vedic Astrology Planets

6) "Tawaret Negative Thought Process Cleansing" Activation (the Goddess of Purity "Tawaret" will actually purify your thoughts for you - you will be amazed to find that you can not have a negative thought even when you try)

7) "Blowing Up Past Life Death Pictures " Activation (this activation will release the emotional attachment to painful events in your current life which have been triggered, and it is also extremely affective as a remedy for Panic Attacks)

8) "Drawing your Energies Back from Others, and Releasing Their Energies from You" Activation

(wherever your thoughts go, your energy follows. This process is a great way to draw all of your energy back to you from wherever you may have scattered it)

You can request a highly affective C ustomized Spiritual Healing Session with Yona

Your session will take approximately 10 to 15 minutes depending on your particular circumstances.

May God Shower Endless Love, Blessings and Joy Upon You Always, Yona Jyotiananda.

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